Serene and Safe

It’s been a challenging weekend to say the least. Unrelenting rain in Melbourne, extensive flooding inside, saturated carpet, a punctured tyre, ripped couches and naughty dogs have tested my endurance.

BUT, believe it or not, amidst all this mayhem is a feeling of acceptance and quiet peace.

Okay, I’ll admit, initially I wasn’t so calm but it’s amazing how a big step backwards helps.

That shift in focus and the realisation that, for all of the hassles and inconvenience, these “things” can be fixed. All is well.

Cheers to a new perspectiveIt’s amazing how a different perspective helps.

“Gratitude and attitude are not challenges. They are choices. “

90 days ago I decided to take part in Wendy’s Change a Habit Challenge at Brilliance Within. My challenge? To meditate daily for 90 days.

Roughly three months later this new practice of stopping for at least five minutes each day to quieten my mind has made such a huge difference to my mindset. It’s now a part of my daily routine.

What have I learnt along the way?

We are and we get what we think about. 

It’s cliche but so true. Think negative thoughts and they often spiral, believe all is well and all will be. Even when times test us and we can’t see the reason, there’s lessons to be learned.

It doesn’t matter where we meditate.

Contrary to popular belief it’s not necessary to sit and meditate in the same place at the same time every day.

However, what I’ve learnt is that committing to the practice of meditation is a bit like going to school, the important thing is showing up. 

No excuses, no forgetting, no wagging or skipping classes!

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We just have to show up.

I didn’t miss any of my 90 days but I’ll be honest, some days my motivation was low.

There were days when things felt hard, when the thoughts swirled and wouldn’t stop but that’s when I knew I needed it most.

Sometimes as I sat quietly tears would unexpectedly flow but I realised it was okay. I learned to go easy on myself and to be kind.

We can’t turn off our thoughts and our emotions but we can acknowledge them and then gently release them.


Just let them go.

We don’t need to hold onto anything that doesn’t serve us.

And we don’t have to change anything – our thoughts, emotions, feelings – they are what they are, just like ripples in sand. They come and they go.

Just accept them and know they will pass, the good and the not so good. Life goes on regardless.

We find inner calm by focusing on the breath.

It’s at the core of meditation, our breath, that flows in and out and reminds us that we’re alive. Do it consciously and feel the awareness of energy and your inner strength.

We all have that strength within us, believe it.

Imagine it being like a serene new morning when we have another chance to get it right.

Regardless of what’s gone before.

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Meditation doesn’t have to be boring.

Mix it up. It can be experienced in so many ways.

For me what works is visualising, breathing exercises, intention setting and guided meditations. I’ve embraced nature, listened to music, lots of YouTube videos, commentaries and mindfulness meditations shared by Bella at ThoughtsnLifeBlog.

Bella’s gentle meditation Being Gentle with myself is one that recently resonated with me. Try it and feel the peace.

Immerse yourself in what you love and choose your thoughts and words carefully. Make them work for you and see your life improve.

We all want to feel uplifted, not hindered, so allow your thoughts to help take you there.

For me the continual practice of meditation has fueled a sense of expansion and gratitude.

I know that whatever challenges lie ahead, keeping a positive attitude will see me safely through these testing times.

After all, in the end, meditation is really a state of mind.

Flooded but still (sort of) smiling

When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is.”

Here’s to attitudes and gratitudes that move us into a place of inner peace and acceptance.

Here’s to 90 days of meditation turning into a lifelong new habit. One of living in the moment and being grateful for all we have and mindful of all that’s in front of us.

Thank you Wendy for the inspiration.

Wishing you all love, light and serene skies as we continue the journey.

Sharing for WPC: Serene and also for Debbie’s Forgiving Fridays

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131 thoughts on “Serene and Safe

      1. We definitely know what it feels like to experience a flood, like you we flooded downstairs and a few paddocks. The annoying thing was that our dog would NOT pee when the water was so high. Which meant driving in flood waters to take him down the road 🙂 Luckily not for a long time! All the best until the drier period arrives and getting sorted!

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        1. It’s a write off. Most stuff of value (computers etc) are out of the room, the rest we’ve left. Hopefully the assessors will be in soon. I agree, bloody stupid weather! x

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  1. such an uplifting post Miriam. Making lemonade out of lemons and finding the positive in challenging situations. Love the reflection photo with the tree, and a glass of wine always helps! Your lamb made me smile… and filled me with warmth. Have a good day and a wonderful week, hope things quiet down and the sun shines!

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    1. Thanks so much Lisa, yes a glass of wine definitely helps turn lemons into lemonade. I couldn’t resist adding Lamby to my post, she always makes me smile, so I’m happy to hear she has the same effect on you. Have a good Sunday. x

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  2. Hi Miriam, I hope the damage us not too bad and it gets resolved easily .

    I had a tear in my eye reading your meditation expriences. Meditation release the deep pain with in us and then we can heal. Most definately meditation can be done anywhere and should be. Meditation is not about quitening the mind, for the mind must think. But it about slowing the thoughts and being more positive. We are definately what we think and do the most. Our habits and thoughts make or break us. Meditation links us to i the soul and the divine.. meditation is like charging our mobile phones… meditation is the recharge of the soul.

    Massive hug i am happy it has become a daily habit… congrats on that.
    A beautiful post on the magic of meditation, your learnings and experiences.. you know what i feel about meditation it is an essential daily practise..

    Thank you for mentioning my blog too.

    Happy sunday regards Bella

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    1. Hi Bella, thanks so much for your kind words and for adding to my post with your thoughts on meditation. Yes, I do know how you feel about the subject, which is why I wanted to tag you in my post. So many of your posts, your quotes and your meditations have been invaluable to me and I’ll keep reading them and enjoying your guided meditations. They’re so wonderful.
      As for the damage, well it can all be fixed. Enjoy your Sunday too. I’m off to bed now. Big hugs back xo

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  3. I can totally relate to the heavy rains and flooding Mirria..been really raining hard here too..and yes you are right no mattee how difficult this situation can be…we just have to change the way we view things and we’re good to go..

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  4. I continue to learn so much from your posts, MIriam.“Gratitude and attitude are not challenges. They are choices. “ This is such an awesome reminder. Thank you for this!

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  5. Well, it’s very obviously working, Miriam. There’d be gnashing of teeth in our house (although we do need new carpets 🙂 ). Hope you can get it all sorted for Christmas, and I really must go and meet Bella. Love that ‘inner calm’ photo especially.

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    1. Thanks so much Jo. Yes, there was some ‘gnashing of teeth’ here initially too I admit but after a while you figure ‘why bother, may as well just go with it’. But yes, I hope it gets sorted for Christmas too, we’ll see. Thanks for the well wishes. 🙂Oh and yes, go meet Bella, you’ll find her very inspiring.

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  6. Congratulations on your dedication to the 90 days of meditation and I can well see that this becomes part and parcel of everyday life. The post shines with its serenity and calming of the mind – mine could do with some of this!! Sorry to see the flooding and hope it wasn’t too bad. Keep safe and calm, my friend. xx

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  7. Oh dear, sorry to hear you were affected by all that rain. Hopefully the damage is easily fixed. I know what you mean about thoughts. I make a conscious effort every day when I come home from work to block all the day’s events from my mind. Otherwise I would be thinking about work 24/7. Easier said than done sometimes, but it does make a difference.

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  8. Oh Miri this is beautiful! I love that first photo and its representation of changing your perspective…perfect! You really have had a week of tests and you have passed them brilliantly!! You are so right, some days its hard to show up for meditation but those are the days that we need it most. Awe Lamby!! Yes when we turn our thoughts in a positive direction then positive outcomes should prevail. I hope all your tests are over for a while and you can catch your breath. Wishing you good news on all that needs to be fixed! Big meditative hugs xo

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    1. Thanks so much Deb. Well, Monday’s dawned here and it’s slightly less wet and grey than yesterday, in fact I can see a patch of blue, so yay!
      Yep, gotta stay positive, it’s a new week and there are new ways of getting things fixed and moving forward. Really want to sit down with DU, hopefully that will be my relaxing time today . I’ll let you know how I go. Big squirrel hugs xo 😊

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      1. Yay for blue skies!! Oh two things about DU, I think I’m going to change the name of it to All is Well…since that is said much more throughout. Also I found that in my new tempo adding “I’ve” to Been launching my desires….seems to fit and flow better! Have fun with it, I’m excited to see what you can do. Big positive relaxing hugs xo 🙂

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  9. Gosh Miriam what an absolutely beautiful post. I adore the line:
    And we don’t have to change anything – our thoughts, emotions, feelings – they are what they are, just like ripples in sand. They come and they go.
    You’re so right – yes the ripples of our lives – the ebbing and flowing within us… just like the ripples in the sand – nothing stands still and life always moves on – even the difficult times we face – even the ripped couch can be fixed – I’ll make sure Bryan sticks some of his upholstery tools in the suitcase!! haha… seriously though – I hope you’re sorting it all out – it sounds like you have had a bit of a tumultuous weekend!
    VERY well done for leading the way with your 90 day challenge – I’m thrilled for you and inspired by you! xxx

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    1. Nothing stands still, how true that is Wendy. And as a new week looms in front of me I’m thinking of how I will be fixing things and how that room will be even better once it’s all sorted. Just in time for your visit. Bryan won’t need his upholstery tools!
      Thank you for your very kind words and especially for being the motivating force behind me taking on this challenge. Big hugs xo

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      1. Oooo – how exciting Miriam – some new ‘interior design’ to look forward to! Every cloud has a silver lining – we were the same last year after our break in – we ended up with a lovely new front door which now brings me a lot of pleasure.. Strange how life works isn’t it… I’ll tell Bryan he can keep his tools mothballed for a bit longer (I’ve got 2 chairs waiting for his handywork.. ) You’re very welcome and I learned a long time ago Miriam that whilst I may have planted the seed, the motivation is from within – You found your Brilliance Within! xx

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        1. Aww, you’re so kind, really, and you’ve been so supportive. I know I’ve done the work myself but when everyone collectively is on the same wavelength it somehow adds to the force of our own motivation. I just love it. And I love the FB group that you created behind the scenes. Way to go!
          Yes, Bryan can fix your chairs but then come over here for a holiday! I have visions of how I want the room to look once the water is out and it will be gorgeous. Yep, life is strange but it all happens for a reason, I do believe that too. Hugs xo

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        2. You’re absolutely right Miri – I think I’d have given up on my exercise challenge if I hadn’t had the added motivation of you and others in the group to spur me along on the off days… I’m not holding my breath for my chairs getting done anytime soon – it’s a bit of a standing joke in the Hodgson house where I say – “I’ve been waiting 20 years…” … Oh way to go Miri – visualising the new room already – I can’t wait to see the finished photos!!! It’s a bit like my DIY disaster – I love my kitchen now – it’s my silver lining and yours is clearly ‘en route’! xxx

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        3. I know. I was actually thinking of your kitchen when I was writing to you before. I remember all your before shots, the dramas you had and your camping ” pictures. And then the finished product. There really is a silver lining in it all isn’t there? Well, I’m off to put some stakes in my tomato plants now. All the rain has caused everything in the garden to go crazy! xo

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  10. I’m sorry to hear about all the rain and flooding you’ve been having! I’m saying a prayer for you that things clear up.

    Yes, taking a few minutes to just re-focus can be so helpful! Thanks for the reminder, dear one!

    *hugs* ❤

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  11. Sorry to hear about the water damage Miriam, we’ve had our fair share of the rain too but luckily no problems with flooding. However, the carport ceiling suddenly decided to leave the safety of it’s permanent home and land on top of our cars, leaving a huge mess and two damaged vehicles. I’m trying to visualise it all being fixed in a week or two. I love the way you have added meditations to your daily routine and that it is helping you. God luck with the clean up and thank you for the photo’s, especially Lamby. Keep smiling, it really helps.

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    1. Oh Barbara, it sounds like you’ve had your fair share of drama too. Sorry about the cars, ouch, hope you can get them sorted soon. As for our carpet well it’s been ripped up and now I feel as though I’m living at the airport with half a dozen turbo fans permanently on till Thursday drying out the floor! Thanks for your well wishes. Take care.

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  12. As I read your lovely words, I found myself nodding my head (a lot!) – we’ve been experiencing some heavy rain here in our world and noticed a big wet patch on our carpet just outside our sliding glass doors, not a nice feeling! My partner & I made a quick trip to our local store to buy some duct tape so we could block the water from the sideways rain from coming in – so far, so good! There must be mischief in the air (there was a super moon in the sky last night!) as our computer and coffee maker have also been acting up – thank goodness for quiet moments and meditation…I hope things have settled down in your part of the world…thank you for sharing, you never fail to leave me learning more about myself and the world!

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    1. Computer and coffee machine both playing up, aagh, I think you might be right Kim, there’s definitely mischief in the air! 😏Hope that wet patch of yours doesn’t get any bigger and hope that rain eases at your end. Here today the sun is shining again (yay), our carpets have been ripped out and the industrial dryers are taking over the house! Life’s certainty never dull, that’s for sure. Good chance for a thorough spring clean anyway.
      Yes, here’s to those quiet moments and meditation. Take care over there. x

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  13. Our house has flooded three times in the last ten years. I’ve just learned there’s not a thing I can do about it, except get everything off the floor and wait. We all know the drill when the water in the street starts to rise! UGH! My oldest son teaches yoga and the tables have definitely turned. He is the teacher and I am the student! We all practice together and he has taught us so much…especially being present in the moment. I’ve spent most of MY life trying to find my “happy place” instead of enjoying the now. Here’s to living in the moment!

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    1. Love it, just love it. Yes our kids can teach us so much can’t they? My youngest is only 16 but he’s as switched on as a 36yo and always makes me think. But a yoga teacher, now that’s impressive. Three times hey, I guess you would be used to it.
      Here’s to being content, prepared and finding our happy place, amongst flooded waters and all..🙂 Cheers

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  14. Miriam, sorry to hear you were flooded.. But happy to know you are still smiling.
    Yes I think there comes a point, when we have woken up to ourselves, and learn to ‘See’ life from that point of gratitude and that different perspective, that we see just how lucky and how much we have to be grateful for..

    Like you, taking time out to meditate, just to take in those deep breaths, of peace.. to still the mind for a few moments, breathing that bit deeper, enhances our stillness. And in doing so we regain our balance, and find that place of peace and serenity within. And all is well in our world once again..

    Many thanks Miriam for sharing such a wonderful post, with so many delightful photos too..
    I come away feeling more at peace with my own afternoon..

    Love and Blessings
    Sue 🙂 xxx ❤

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    1. Such calm and peaceful words from you Sue, just what I needed this morning when everything seems to be going pear shaped around me. Here’s to those moments of stepping back and deep breathing … thank you so much. Love and hugs xo ❤️

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      1. I have to do that often Miriam, I Literally stop. close my eyes and tell myself to calm down, breathe deep a couple of times, and centre myself if I start to get flustered over something.. And we both know it works.. 😀 xxx Sending love right back at you.. ❤

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  15. Miriam I believe I should read this post on a daily basis. I definitely an one to whir about at top speed from the minute I rise until I fall asleep. My meditation time comes in the middle of the night often when trying to get back to sleep. Your practice of daily for 90 day’s sounds as though it has been life altering. Hoping the flooding hasn’t left any last damage. Admiring and inspired by your positive attitude.

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  16. I’m sorry you had such a rough weekend, but glad that ultimately it helped you! Sometimes it does take hard things to make us realize that so much of what we worry about isn’t really that important…that things can be fixed, and we will move on. I love how meditation has helped you, and I agree that what we think is often what happens, and always how we respond. I’ve always been scared to try meditation, but now I’m thinking it would be worth a try. Thanks Miriam, for another post that helps me and so many others.
    PS: That’s my favorite photo of Lamby….

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    1. Thanks Ann. There’s nothing too scary about meditation though I’ll admit in the past I found it hard to committing to stop. I always felt that I needed to be doing something else and I could never justify stopping. But I’ve realised that even taking just ten minutes out every day can shift my entire mood. So worth doing. I hope you give it a try.
      Yes, I love that photo of Lamby too, couldn’t resist putting it in. 🙂

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        1. I’m so glad. Just look up some YouTube meditations. Or if you want to try something really simple but lovely you could check out “calm” meditations. Have fun!

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  17. This is lovely post Miriam. I love your choice of photos. Well keeping up the mediation for 90 days. I hope you can keep it up. I did a mediation course a million years ago and used to meditate twice a day but that is long since gone. Occasionally I try to start doing it again. maybe I should by doing for a short time too. Sorry to hear about your water damage. We didn’t get crazy amounts here. The quote at the end really resonates with me. Thank you. Louise

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    1. Thanks Louise. I hope I can keep it up too. I figure even if I just do five minutes a day it’s better than nothing. So far so good and it really is keeping me grounded. Yeah the flood damage wasn’t much fun and all the carpet’s been ripped out but the real issue is determining the cause. I have plumbers coming tomorrow (hopefully). Have a good night.x

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  18. G’day Miriam what a truly positive person you are to remain calm under such difficult circumstances, hope you are drying out by now. We heard, briefly, of the floods in your part of Australia on the Qld news, but only for a couple of days. I always find it so disappointing when they do not give us follow up stories, I think we are in for a wet summer. I’ll look forward to hear how you progress

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    1. Thanks so much Pauline for your kind words of support and encouragement. Yes, the floods were no fun but it’s forced us to look at a few plumbing and other issues so perhaps it was meant to be. Carpets had to be ripped out and we’re slowly drying out with the help of industrial dryers! Yes, it’s typical of the news not to follow up. Guess it didn’t warrant as a big enough storm! Thanks again.

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  19. This post is further proof of the amazing, enlightened and beautiful person that you are. Most people would have crumbled in the face of relentless adversity, but somehow, you manage to flourish. It is truly a gift to witness your rare perspective in action, and as always, extremely inspiring! Keep being awesome, Miriam! xo

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    1. Aww thanks Tanya, as usual you’re so kind. Let me just say when I first saw the water coming through I did have my moments and plenty of choice words. 😁 But there came a point where I just thought, well it’s happened, gotta deal with it, so that’s what I’m doing. Thanks again and big hugs to you, hope you’re well. xo

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  20. Oh Miriam I love this! Especially this sentence: And we don’t have to change anything – our thoughts, emotions, feelings – they are what they are, just like ripples in sand. They come and they go.

    One of the keys that I’m learning is that I am more than my thoughts, emotions, and feelings – I am a loving heart. (You know what I mean 🙂 )

    Anyway congrats on completing Wendy’s 90 day challenge, and it sounds like you got so much out of it, like inner calm.

    If you’d like, it would be an honor for you to contribute this post for Forgiving Fridays. Just include #ForgivingFridays in your tags & link to my most recent post. What a wonderful example of choosing a higher perspectve.

    I love you Miriam! Have a great rest of your week.
    Blessings, Debbie

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  21. ‘We can’t turn off our thoughts and our emotions but we can acknowledge them and then gently release them.’ This is such a powerful line. Our emotions will be our emotions and they will flow. sometimes we just can’t control them. But as you said, we can control how we reach to them, slowly and surely. I’m not one for showing emotions such as sadness, frustration and anger – I bottle it up and in the long run, it gives others the wrong impression and there have been times people have been hurt because of that. Like you, I’ve tried to calm down and just slow down, recognise the emotions and then go from there.

    Sorry to hear about the flooding and damp carpet. From that shot of you cleaning out the waters, it looks like you know thing are going to be okay 🙂

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    1. So true Mabel, when we bottle things up it can give people the wrong impression. I do tend to let my feelings show, most of the tine, though I’m learning, especially during our current crisis, that often it’s just better to go with the flow. No point fighting it and getting ok emotional. Thanks for sharing your insight. Here’s to slowing down and, yes, acknowledging that no matter how bad things seem, they always work out for the best.
      Hope you’re having a good weekend. 🙂

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      1. When you let your emotions show, I think you know what you are feeling, and that is a good thing. Things will fall into place…that is what I tell myself. What’s mean to be, will be and it will be okay in the end. After all, we’ve all come so far.

        Hope you have a good week ahead, Miriam 🙂

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  22. I’m not even surprised to see you smiling in a photo right after describing flooding in your home Miriam. I’m sure the meditation was part of it, but I suspect that innate mindfulness plays a big part.

    And is that a photo of Lamby?!? I’ve been wondered how she is doing…

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    1. Hey Gabe, well I figure better to smile than to cry, though I’ll be honest, I had my moments.
      Yes, that’s Lamby, she’s doing great, in fact she’s even got a friend these days. My daughter just rescued another sheep ready for slaughter, so Lamby’s one happy ewe.

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