Loving the Connection

It’s Valentine’s Day and my husband’s gone again. Left in a taxi two days ago, bags and all.

For the next two weeks he’s working interstate. It’s the longest we’ve spent apart. He was away at the same time last year as well, when I wrote Loving my World.

What’s with the timing?  I mean, doesn’t his company realise it’s Valentine’s Day?

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Please note the sarcasm.

Neither of us are into the hype and commercialism of Valentine’s Day. He’s never been much of a flowers and chocolates guy which is okay.  I can buy my own Lindt and Turkish Delight!

We go out for dinner when we feel like it and fancy ‘hyped up’ restaurants are few and far between.

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Some of our ‘finest dining’ has been under the stars with priceless views.

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We have our own version of a dirty weekend. It’s called mud therapy.

I know he loves me. We tell each other daily and he shows me, in simple gestures … he makes me cups of tea (without me asking), he cooks the BEST Thai green curry and he makes me laugh. Oh, and he gives a pretty good foot and neck rub (when I can convince him).

After nearly 25 years of being married to him I know I’m in the right place, whether or not he’s here with me today.

Plus we still have heaps of exciting trips to take together.

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BUT while the cat’s away, this little Miri mouse is going to play.

So this post is dedicated to my friends and the special connections I have in my life, that’s YOU my fellow bloggies.

The online friendships I’ve made here are very real and yesterday became even more so.

On Monday I finally met Louise, a lovely blogger from my part of the world who totally inspired me with her journey trekking to Base Camp in Nepal. We’ve kept in touch ever since.

Over a few hours of tea, coffee and decadent pastries at Second Home in Eltham we shared stories about ourselves, our families, our travels and goals and of course our blogging.

We laughed, shed a tear or two (okay, that was me being Miss Sentimental) and left a few hours later having forged an even stronger connection. Bloggers united.

I wish I could do that with all of you. But alas, it’s not that easy. Unless you can somehow win your way over here with some Vision Board dreaming (yes, I’m talking about you Wendy)  I’ll have to make do with virtual hugs across the ocean and lengthy chats.

You know I love my chats.

Here’s to strengthening those connections this Valentines Day, both here in the blogosphere and in everyday life.

Here’s to love, to couples and, to those of you who are alone here’s to forging the ultimate  connection.

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What a great excuse to:

  1. Grab that book you’ve been putting off reading, snuggle up and get lost in another world.
  2. Sit outside and watch the sun set, breathing in the stillness and contentment of life.
  3. Play your favorite music, light a candle and fill the house with the sensuous scent of peace and quiet.
  4. Cook your favorite meal and open a bottle of wine. Raise a toast to life!
  5. Watch that movie you’ve been longing to for ages. Cry, laugh, let it all out.
  6. Get dressed up and take yourself out for the day.

Make the choice to be happy, whether you’re alone and single or married and in a relationship.  Remember, in the end that choice is up to you.

Here’s to strong and loving connections, not just on Valentine’s Day but every day.

Let’s spread the love fearlessly, starting with ourselves.

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Here’s to loving life, loving each other and staying connected. 

(Now I’m off to read that book in bed. The good thing about being alone is I get to stay up late and read, with the light on, as late as I want!)

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Sharing also for #Loveuary – Valentine


157 thoughts on “Loving the Connection

  1. A beautiful post celebrating love and friendships, Miriam. A very happy Valentine Day’s to you and virtual hug winging its way to you! In many parts of Europe Feb. 14th is a celebration of friendships, romances, love between parents/children etc and I do like that take on the date. I hope the two weeks fly past for you and your hubby is soon home again; your love and happiness together radiates from your post and wow, what a wonderfully dramatic and romantic photo by the waterfall. Wishing you a lovely day and enjoy that book! I’m hoping for a second day with lunch outside!! Wrapped up in a winter coat, clutching a book, watching the birds and revelling in the near-Spring sunshine!😀❤️

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  2. Beautiful post . . . and I’m with you on the late nights with book and light on! MrB is also away this valentines first time I can ever remember us being apart on valentines after 20odd years . . like you though we don’t do the whole commercial valentines thing as if today is the only day you can say ‘I love you’ then oh dear, oh dear, oh dear. I’m doing 1,2 and 6 today . . .and hopefully 4 with my sister-in-law at lunchtime. 🙂

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  3. Beautiful post celebrating the real meaning behind V-day! I completely agree that there tends to be way too much hype around this day. Ironically the day of love is what causes a rift between some couples! 😀 I’m so glad you’re finding a way to celebrate in a way that is meaningful to you… Happy Gal-entines hon! ❤

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  4. Hi Miriam, What a great post and not just because I am in it! love the lines about your husband and the dirty weekend, Your take on Valentines day and the list at the end is lovely. I really enjoyed our morning together and look forward to another catch up. Enjoy the new book, whatever title you settled on. Louise x

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    1. Hey Louise, thanks, wasn’t it a great morning yesterday. I really enjoyed our catch up and came home feeling so motivated (as you know). Look forward to doing it again. Hope you’ve had a good day. xo

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  5. In April I’m taking Jo to see Patti Smith, Jo’s taking me to see Jethro Tull, and a couple of mates and I are going to see Billy Bragg and Jo Henry. Life’s good. I liked your dirty weekend line too!

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  6. I actually find the commercialization of these celebrations a bit off-putting. For couples who have matured in their understand and love each other, they don’t need Valentine to express it. It reflects in their mutual respect and joy of being together.

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  7. So much of this post resonated (as always, btw HOW DO YOU DO THAT 😉 ). The couples mud baths, skipping the commercialized version of the holiday because everyday is Valentine’s Day when your with the one(s) you love, and discovering an entirely unexpected world of virtual friendship in this crazy blogosphere.

    Happy day after Feb 13!

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  8. Great post! I have also been abandoned by husband this Valentine’s Day, he’s away on business too. It really is just another day though. I have to admit I love having the bed to myself though (apart from the cold feet part) 😉

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  9. Sorry you are apart from your husband on this Valentine’s day, but I’m sure you will make up for it with a fun camping trip soon. Great Post! Have a wonderful day.

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  10. Lovely post for a lovely day, Miriam! I’m with you – I don’t need an excuse for chocolates or a nice meal. I can treat myself to those anytime I please. Your reflections on connection and on taking care of our relationship with ourselves and each other are spot on. I’m sorry you husband can’t be with you, but I’m glad you are making the most of your time! I’m traveling today and will be working all week, so it’s going to be hard, but I’m resolving to be compassionate with myself along the way. And I already have a couple days off and a massage booked for when I come back!

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    1. Hope you have a good week Lulu and I hope you get a chance to put your feet up a bit. Gotta be kind to ourselves hey? That massage sounds lovely and something to look forward to. Take care xo

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  11. Another beautiful post! I hope to have that cup of tea (coffee for me!) with both of you when I finally make it back to your amazing continent! Of course, you are always welcome here 🙂

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  12. There’s always a silver lining. Mr ET used to be in the army and he was often away for weeks at a time. I always used the time to do special things with our daughters that we wouldn’t do when he was home. I must say though, I’m glad those times are behind us now.

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    1. Oh Nikki, sorry for the late reply. I just found your comment. Hope you’re well and yes, wouldn’t it be awesome if we could meet one day too. 😊 Happy belated Valentine’s Day to you. ❤️

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  13. I’m with you on doing special things with hubby on specific days. We don’t. Today is a regular day for us. He does special things to day every day, or specialer things in our convenience. I love Dr. Seuss and Charlie Brown. Thank you for including them! Happy Every Day!

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      1. Thank you! My son-in-law sent flowers to my daughter’s office. She was so excited that she took a picture right away and sent it to me, but they had the dinner tonight instead on the eve of Valentine because they had another commitment. They are very flexible also. My daughter’s BD is the day after Christmas. As far as BD party with friends, it has been weeks before or after her BD. I like the way she takes it also!

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  14. And what wonderful connections we share… in our families, with our lovers and with our friends across the blogosphere… My world has been expanded over the last year and somehow those water between here and Aussie no longer seem quite so far. Raising my glass of red wine in your direction Miri! Much love and a very big HUG from here in the UK… I’m sneaking in a blogging catch up as my hubby is now snoring on the sofa after his valentines tea and glass of wine .. haha – how times change! hehe.. the night is young! x

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    1. You’re right Wendy, the waters don’t seem nearly so far. In fact at the moment I’d say that anything is possible. Cheers to you too my dear friend and look forward to another ‘catch up’ very soon. I have so much to tell you! 🍷😊 xo

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  15. It’s amazing that you were able to meet up with a blogger friend. Now the friendship is even more genuine (not that I am saying that it wasn’t genuine before you met– I know you know what I mean!) 🙂 It is really nice to know that real friendships could be developed even in the cyberworld. 🙂
    Now I don’t like your hubby’s company for making their employees’ work on Valentine’s Day! Good thing you have that list of wonderful things to do when alone. 🙂 I hope you have by yourself – I know you are loved deeply by friends and loved ones. Happy Valentine’s Day Miriam! 🙂

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    1. Thanks for your gorgeous comment Nina. Yes, it was wonderful meeting up with Louise and it made everything about blogging feel so much more real. And don’t get me started on my husband’s company, they haven’t even booked a return ticket at this point 🙁 BUT nevertheless I’m keeping myself busy and things are actually good here. It’s amazing what I’ve got done! Hope you had a lovely day Nina. ❤️

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      1. Thank you Miriam! I and my hubby didn’t get to spend valentine’s day together as well…he has work and was in the office all day and I was at work all night! We went out on a date last weekend though… 😉😚 Don’t worry, you can still have a post valentine’s day celebration! 😊

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  16. How I just loved this post!! I’m right there with you, Miriam! Let’s together forge ahead each and every day and LOVE all around us so that the special feeling of Love on Valentine’s Day for so many stays the year long. LOVE is the answer to all our problems. Celebrating with you the Love for Life and the Love of friendship. Happy Valentine’s Day!! ❤

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  17. I often think I could do an entire Pick Of The Week with just your posts in it… Great post… so beautiful what you said about your husband. And how awesome to meet bloggers in real and have a chat face to face! Here’s to more of those moments in the future…

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  18. Hello Miriam!
    What a wonderful post. And I loved the ‘dirty weekend’ reference! Such a great way to see that term in a different light.
    And it would have been such treat meeting someone you have got to know from the written word. Very exciting and so much in common by the sound of it.
    Xx from Di 🌺

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  19. Mirim, your photos are always so interesting. I love the birds all sitting on the wires and your feet covered in mud. How awesome that you got to hang out with a fellow blogger in person. I recognized her right away since I follow her as well. Building friendships across lands and seas is the power of blogging. Thanks for sharing your positive light today and every day.

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  20. You did it! And you posted about your meeting. I wish you could see my smile right now. This is wonderful. No, fabulous. Jee…I can’t even find the word I want to describe this. I am simply delighted you were able to meet. Just lovely. Looks like you had a great time. Here’s to blogging and connections. ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Your comment made me smile too Karen. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all meet like this. But I’m happy too that we’ve simply connected in this way. How lucky we all are. ❤️

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  21. I think this is actually my favorite Valentine’s Day post I’ve read this year! I love that you expanded the holiday to include Friendships as well, because the group of people we love and appreciate it is usually a big one. And I’m sorry your hubby will be gone for so long, but I hope you enjoy the solitude. I know I do when I’m alone in the house, although it is always wonderful when they return, isn’t it?

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    1. Very true Ann, I’ll be hanging out to see him by the time he gets back. And thank you for your very nice comment, Valentine’s Day to me really is about love in all its forms. Hope you had a lovely one.

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  22. Pure perfection! I love your dirty weekends, when I make it to Australia you must allow me to join in!! I can only imagine how wonderful it would be to meet up with you after having blogged, chatted, shared, and talked how wonderful it was that you two met and shared in person. Lovely thoughts for Valentine’s Day and every day for that matter! One other thing, the number 11 is a number that’s always popping up for me, to me it’s the Angels letting me know they are around, it’s always 4:11 or 10:11 or something when I look at the clock, if I add numbers 11 often is in the mix…at any rate I was the 111 liker of this post…it gave me goosebumps! I wonder Ms. Miri are you still up reading it’s very late there now!!! Wishing you the sweetest of dreams my beautiful friend and enjoy your “alone” time while hubby’s away. xoxo Big hugs to you! 🙂

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    1. I am still reading. It’s actually early afternoon here. How peculiar about the numbers. That happens to my son and I a lot. He’s a real maths/numbers person and he notices everything like that. I’ve lost track of how many times its been 7.11 or in the car it’s 4.11pm. Yes, all the time. Goosebumps. 😌✨ Thanks for your kind words about my post and yes, come to Australia Deb and we’ll all go on a ‘dirty weekend’ together. Camping is just the best fun! 🙂 Having a nice time without hub. I miss him but lots of new opportunities have opened up for me since I’ve been alone. Hope you’re well. Big hugs back xo

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      1. I’m the Comptroller at the company I work at, the bookkeeper so I work with numbers and enjoy them!! That’s funny that you and your son do the same. Angels are everywhere!! I am well thanks, glad you are enjoying your “you” time!! xo 🙂

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  23. I suspect he’s done rather well in finding you, Miriam. 🙂 Then again, I have a hunch he’s a really great guy too. I took a romantic stroll in a lovely garden, on my own, on Tuesday afternoon, while Mick was nearby working. No chocs and I bought my own flowers. A girl knows what a girl likes 🙂

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  24. That’s funny about the mud therapy, lol! I can tell you and your husband have a wonderful connection, which is so great to see. I always enjoy your posts because you two have a lot of fun just being together, and it reminds me of my husband and me. Cheers to that! I love that you got to spend time with a fellow blogger, how fun! I’d love to have a cup of tea with you if we weren’t so far apart. Take care 🙂

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    1. Thanks Jenny, glad you enjoyed the post. We do have a lot of fun together, nice that it reminds you of your hub and you too. Yes, wouldn’t it be awesome to meet. That cuppa tea sounds great. xo

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  25. You have got the world by the tale! And I say, “Good for you!” How exciting to meet face to face with a friend who you met through blogging. I have so many hopes of meeting some of my friendly bloggers as well. Love your pictures too! Excellent post! ~kim

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  26. This was a truly warming post. My hubby and I skip out on the commercial Valentine’s Day stuff all together. I’ve always told him he’s better off showing me he loves me on his accord rather than because the world says today is the day to show your love. I loved this post. So glad Miri Mouse was out of the house and out to play 😘

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    1. Haha. I’ve been out of the house today too and tonight. This Mouse hasn’t had so much play time in ages! But it’s way past my bedtime now! I’ll be over to visit you tomorrow Monica. Thanks for visiting. It’s been lovely reading all your comments. 😊

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  27. What a beautiful post, Miriam. You’re so right in what you say about the blogosphere. I’ve been really lucky to meet lots of fellow bloggers at the annual bloggers bash we hold every June in London. It’s our third year this year and we’ve got even more people coming along. We’ve even got a couple of international bloggers making the trip this time. I’ve made some brilliant friendships over the three years since I’ve been blogging. I can’t resist a bit of catching up with fellow bloggers on a daily basis. I can’t imagine life without my blogging friends.
    Good to see you’ve met up with some blogger friends as well. Sounds as if Louise and you had an excellent time.
    I hope you treated yourself to some of that chocolate?
    Keep on spreading the friendship.

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    1. Hi Hugh, how lucky that you get to meet so many bloggers at the annual bloggers bash. That would be so awesome. I remember reading about it and thinking how much I’d love to go. Maybe one year, you just never know. 🙂 In the meantime, yes, I’ll definitely keep doing my bit to spread the friendships here. Yesterday in fact I met up with not only Louise again but Deb from Debs World. Two bloggers in one week, I reckon that’s pretty good. 😊

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        1. Yes, Deb has a wonderful blog, I’ve been following her for ages. And I think you might be right Hugh, I have a feeling I’ll be meeting many more bloggers. In fact there are already plans afoot.

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      1. Wow that is awesome Miriam. Now what I’m wondering is if Di from Instagram “Creative Di” lives by you? I have really connected with her on IG and she reminds me a bit of your thinking and inspiring mind. Now that would be pretty amazing. I haven’t read Debbie’s blog. Will have to check it out. Wonderful week for you!

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        1. Yes, there are a couple of bloggers from Melbourne and surrounds that I’d like to get in touch with, Di being one of those. Who knows? Yes, check out Deb’s blog, she’s great. You have a wonderful week too my friend. xo

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  28. What a beautiful picture of a marriage Miriam. I totally agree that real love is cups of tea at home and walks together, more than holiday flowers or fancy meals out. We’ve been married 42 years next month– So I’m with you on being thankful for the year we’ve had… Glad you summoned a lovely Valentines Day –even when he was away!! You’re the best! hugs!

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    1. Wow, 42 years, that’s so wonderful Rhonda. Happy anniversary for next month. Here’s to many more years together, cups of tea, long walks and everything else that makes living with someone for that long so special. Have a great weekend Rhonda. Big hugs back xo

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