I have to confess something. I’ve been spending a lot of time with The Stranger in my bed lately. My hubby’s been gone for nearly a week, interstate on a work trip, and it’s given me the freedom to indulge in a few guilty pleasures. But it’s not what you think. I miss my man and the house has been quiet without his laughter.
The time we’ve spent apart has given me time to start a new project which I’m really excited about. It’s also allowed me to spend quality one-on-one time with the kids (when they’ve been home!) and reflect on where I’m at in my life. I’ve been able to do a few things I’ve been neglecting, like spending time in my garden, playing my guitar and catching up on some writing.
I was out in my garden on the weekend and I thought it was funny how everywhere I looked there were single things, as though the Universe was in cahoots.
There it was, the first daffodil of the season poking its head up. One solitary yellow flower. It was alone but there are buds behind it and I know it won’t be long before there’s a whole sunny family of them out in full bloom.
Further down my path my pineapple sage is growing rampant. Again here was a solitary flower poking out amid the shaded greenery. But it will eventually spread everywhere.
The other morning this fella landed on my rooftop. Normally they appear in pairs but he seemed content to be on his own. I guessed his partner wouldn’t be too far away.
Although I’m missing hubby and waking up next to him I know that it’s also healthy to sometimes fly alone. It gives us a sense of strength in ourselves.
So for now I’m relishing staying up late and spending lots of time with The Stranger in my bed, (that’s the latest Harlan Coben book in case you wondered) and eating more dark Lindt chocolate than I normally would. Sinful guilty pleasures.
A bit like meditation, being alone has its positives:
- It helps you slow down.
- It connects you to yourself
- It provides space to unwind and find peace
- Makes you appreciate your relationships
- Time to reflect on this past year and where I’m heading
- Replenishes your self-confidence
- Helps you appreciate the smaller things
- You can stay up late and think more creatively
- There are less distractions and more focus.
- And you can finish a good book!
Despite all that, he’s home tomorrow and I’m excited.
Wishing you all love, laughter, happiness and contentment with the ones you’re with, whether you’re surrounded by a family, a partner or simply yourself.
Whether you’re flying solo or in pairs, love life, love yourself and have a great week.
Stay safe and enjoy the journey.