Recently I’ve noticed I tend to get lost in my own mind, making decisions painstakingly slowly. Sometimes it’s worth it, but sometimes we need to take a leap in life, just like I did with this blog. I never really thought about where it would lead me – and it wasn’t really something blindingly logical. Had I pondered about the time and effort I’d put into it, perhaps I would have second guessed myself.
This blog has let me meet all you wonderful people, so I’m glad I didn’t ponder it too hard.
As I’ve got older I’ve started second guessing myself a lot more, especially where I am right now in my life. I feel like so many things are changing around me.
Taking care of my family, health issues and life choices have made me more careful and hesitant in making decisions than I used to be. As a consequence I tend to sit on the fence a lot more and I can sometimes take a long time deciding on a course of action.
Sometimes I need to trust my gut instincts more than I do. I tend to question everything but I’ve realised it’s not good to sit on the fence for too long or the opportunities pass and we miss our chance.
A chance to see what’s beyond the end of the path. To take risks and see what could be.
And we can miss the beauty that’s around us. I don’t want to do that. It’s one thing to be protected from falling but I want to be open to life and what’s around the corner.
Being open and spontaneous is how so many of our adventures have started, just like a wander down a path without a sign. We could reflect all day about the consequences, but then we miss the stunning sunset at the end of the path.
Or the quirkiness that’s around the next bend.
I think it’s time to leap off that fence and take action. Follow our instinct.
Appreciate what’s around us.
I’m blessed with my health and home and a beautiful family and the rest – my direction and purpose and where I’m heading – is all up to me.
Some say the grass is greener on the other side of the fence but I disagree.
I think the grass is greener where ever you water it. And I will always do what I can to keep my side nourished and alive. I’m willing to be open to opportunities when I see them. I hope you can be too.
Wishing you all peace, happiness and contentment with whatever patch of grass you have and where ever you are.
Here’s what Leunig has to say on this …
This is in response to Frank’s Photo Challenge – Fence – over at Dutch goes the Photo.
Great post with lots of interesting fences. Well done.
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Thanks Brigid.
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Fantastic post with a wonderful fences, none of which appear to need mending 🙂
Frank
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Thanks Frank, a couple were a bit shonky! 🙂
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This is a great post 🙂 Thank you for sharing the words and the pictures.
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My pleasure. 🙂
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I guess we all ponder at some time in our lives. And, I believe, it is how we should live life.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful posts…i’ve enjoyed many of them.
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I’m glad Alok, thank you.
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What a lovely post! The way you’ve written this is similar to my journal entries 😄 maybe that’s why I felt it more deeply and the poem at the end made me smile from my heart, its so adorable and that would be me if I ever sit on a fence! – Michelle
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Ah, and your comment made me smile too, thanks Michelle. 🙂
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Excellent.
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Thanks Wendy.
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The trick is not it to let those fences separate you from where you want to be.
Great post
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So true. There’s always got to be a way to get through. Thanks!
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This all sounds familiar. I’m finding more and more that I’m less spontaneous and more cautions about decisions.
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Maybe it’s just a sign we’re getting older (and wiser?) 🙂
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Older and more scared perhaps? 🙂
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Maybe. I still take risks though, but they’re just more calculated … if that makes sense.
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Yeah – I know what you mean.
Thinking about your other conversation – Who was this weird guy?
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Someone in my real world here.
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Oh, I see… no one weired from here then? Lol
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No, though now that I think about it …
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What, it might have been a weird person from here???
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Aha 🙂
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Lol.. who could you mean? 😛
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Not sure. Perhaps someone from a galaxy, far far away … 🙂
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Ha! Or a planet close by?
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Yeah, most probably!! 🙂
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Who could you mean?? Lol
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Thank you for sharing these beautiful words. This post is such an inspiration!!
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Calm post and that picture of you sitting on the fence (I presume it’s you) is great. I guess as we grow older, we don’t just fly off and do what we want. We ruminate and think over them before jumping down the fence.
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Very true and yes it’s me Jackie, sitting on the fence. My son took it today.
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A very thoughtful post, Miriam! Sometimes , we need to just take that leap of faith. 🙂
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Yep, we do indeed, and sometimes without overthinking it. 🙂
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Very true! I am guilty of overthinking, I need to really tone down in that area! 😀
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You and me both! 🙂
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Beautiful thoughtful post, Miriam. I’ve fluctuated between caution and adventure – when my son was young I was overtly careful and considered everything whilst as a youngster myself I was of course, as the young always think, invincible and took more risks. Balance is best for now and I feel you have reached this point too?
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Most definitely, I think it also comes with having a family and assuming responsibilities. But it’s constantly changing as they get older … you’re right Annika, balance is the key.
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Meaningful post !
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Thanks for reading.
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You are welcome 😃
Hey !
For writers like you,
Here’s a link for
“MiracleChallenge Week – 3” dated 28th June, 2016 –
https://miraclegirlblog.wordpress.com/2016/06/28/miraclechallenge-week-3-dated-28th-june-2016/
in my blog. If the writing prompts inspires you to write, you are welcome to join us anytime.
Have a good day ☺
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Thanks for sending me the link. Sounds interesting. 🙂
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Wow. That’s amazing to know. Looking forward to hear from you soon then 😃
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Beautiful words Miriam. Food for thought for all of us I would think. I too have been a fence sitter through the years; however current circumstances have forced my hand a little and I find myself jumping over the fence and trusting my guy feelings more. I’m glad we “met”. 🙂
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I’m glad we’ve met too Kim. Thanks and all the best to you.
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love it every bit! your photos are outstanding! the stuff dreams are made of! 🙂 ❤
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Aw, thanks so much. I’m glad you think so. xo
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🙂 ❤ 🙂
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And good morning to you Miriam! xo im getn the hang of this time difference thing hahaa xo have a great day!
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You are indeed! Thank you and good night to you! Hope you’ve had a nice day. xo
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aw ty! i have! xo
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Thanks, soul sister. Needed this…
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My pleasure Jess. Hope all’s well in your world ♡
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Going well. Just had a couple decisions and took forever to make them… But, did it. Your post helped me just trust my gut.
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I’m glad to hear that. Hope you have a good day Jess. Hugs xo
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Thank you. You, too.
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That is a very wise saying that the grass is greener where ever you water it. I need to adapt it 🙂
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I love this post and your honesty and description of the quirkiness around the next bend. I have found that due to some of life’s not-so-pleasant experiences, I tend to do what you do: wait to decide. For me, I don’t like to jump too soon because certain decisions I’ve made in haste I’ve come to regret. I find that when I wait–following the rule of If you don’t know what to do, wait for a bit more clarity, then decide–I make fewer errors. Or at least I tell myself I make fewer mistakes. With enough time, I forget what I’ve done… 😉
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I know exactly what you mean Karen. Glad I’m not the only one that thinks like this. Cheers to us taking our time and making fewer mistakes. 🙂
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🙂
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I don’t know if it’s our rapidly changing world, or simply the changes in my own life and family that sometimes seem hard to deal with, but I understand exactly what you mean about having a hard time making choices and spending too much time second-guessing. Maybe we just have to be more intentional about taking that leap of faith, because as you point out, so often the results are good things! And it’s no fun to sit on the fence for too long. Great post, Miriam!
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Thanks Ann and you know what they say about what happens when you sit on the fence for too long, you end up getting splinters!
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Love this post 🙂
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Thanks Alba.
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The woman from Snowy River? I recognize the house!
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Really?
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That’s the house from the movie isn’t it?
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Of course! Craigs Hut in the high country. You’re quite right. (It was late when I posted!)
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I love that movie!
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Me too. And my daughter’s watched it so many times I’ve lost count.
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Smart girl!
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Miriam, quite lovely! Yes, I too, am learning to hold my own hand. And to be okay with the grass I do choose to water. ❤️
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I’m glad Tiffany. xo
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Thank you, as always, for sharing your insights and your process! ❤️
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I think my problem is that I usually fall off the fence. 🙂 I love that photo with the stairs that go to a little landing where you can see what looks like a waterfall…
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Thanks, I like that one too.
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Lovely…from one fence sitter to another. 😉
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Nice to know I’m not alone Nikki. 🙂
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Oh wow. What a fabulous take on the quote of the grass being green on the other side. It makes sense so awesomely. Next time someone says that I would be quoting you and pointing to your blog’s direction ❤
And such fabulous pictures. Your blog is indeed a huge huge pleasure to follow Miriam 🙂
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You make me smile, again! Thanks so much my dear. xo
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Anytime Miriam 🙂 ❤
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What a lovely reflective piece. Thanks
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My pleasure Marie. xo
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MIrtiam love readng your thoughts, The grass is greener wherever you water it. Whenever I fin myself on the fence about something, I try to step away from the inner conflict I am having. Sometimes, be taking a step back a person can find a new perspective. Good post.
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Thanks Andrew, I appreciate your thoughtful comment.
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You have the soul of a poet and the wisdom of a sage. The grass being greener wherever you water it especially resonated. Writing this was certainly not time wasted. Super post. 🙂
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I’m touched Richard. Thank you so much for your super kind words Glad it resonated.
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Enjoyed meandering down this path with you and your lovely images fit perfectly. Well done.
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Thanks Steve. Always nice to have you along.
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I am the polar opposite – I SHOUKD sit on the fence before making decisions, especially big ones. But I am rash and quick-I want what I want and I wanted it yesterday. I have to force myself onto the fence. If the opportunities pass, they maybe weren’t meant to be your opportunities. There’s something different for you. Maybe?? I just wonder that it’s not a BAD thing to take a bit to make up your mind, really listening to your instincts instead of letting them drive you. Your post is lovely and this pictures are terrific-is that your home?
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We’re all so different, aren’t we Amanda. It’s not a bad thing to sit on the fence, but maybe what we need is a good healthy balance of weighing things up, trusting our instincts and going for it!
And no, that’s not my house. I wish! It’s Craig’s Hut which was the setting for one of our classic movies The Man from Snowy River. It’s a great spot for a picnic. xo
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“balance” – the ever aspiring truth. You’re SO right!
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I am trying to go with my gut instinct all the time. I find when I don’t it gets me into all sorts of bother.
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I know what you mean. Our gut instinct generally never lets us down.
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Great read, very thought provoking. I like that you pointed out the dangers of sitting too long and missing opportunities. Have a great weekend (I believe it’s Friday there)
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It is indeed. Thanks Steve and I hope you have a great one too.
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splendid expression that reflects the notion: If a blog is a reflection of the self, not only do we have no idea of how it unfold, we can only hope we aren’t locked in as our ego (for its own sake) keeps wanting us to believe..joining a collective creative community should bring delightful surprises (even if poignant or mournful at times). Delight doesn’t mean unthinking giddiness. your blog is one of those demonstrates authenticity is what is key.
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Oh, and the ending “Sitting on the Fence” is priceless.
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Ha. Glad you liked it.
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Thank you, I appreciate that.
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“I think the grass is greener where ever you water it.” I love it Miriam & i think that way. We only see what we want to see. Thank you for this amazing blog that let us get to know you better ❤
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Aw, thanks Maja. xo
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Sometimes, you just have to take your time about things. It’s okay, especially when it’s a life-altering decision you have to make. The world could probably use more fence-sitters in that aspect, lol, as it seems too many people make snap decisions about things they should take their time about, like 55 hour marriages. *ahem*
You know how to trust your instinct, sweetheart. You will make just the right decision at just the right time. I have full confidence in that.
I loved your little joke! It reminds me of one we used to sing when I was a girl. 🙂
*hugs* ❤
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Thanks Ness, your words always bring a smile to my face. Hugs back. 🙂
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it was nice you never second guessed about starting your blog! Can you imagine what we would have been missing! Furthermore, your posts become the meeting place of so many bloggers. Along with your own thought, the reflections everyone shares with you become a nice discourse to follow. 🙂
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That’s such a nice thing to say. And I have to agree with you that the wonderful comments and conversations I have here are one of the best things about blogging. Thanks for joining in!
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Miriam I love this! Funny, our posts weren’t that dissimilar 🙂 Sending blessings your way – and that photo of the person at the end of the fence around the pier / water is gorgeous. Where is that?
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Thanks Debbie. If it’s the photo I’m thinking of its at Dutton Bay in South Australia.
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Gorgeous, Miriam.
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Your post is a pure bliss Miriam…
I totally loved “I think the grass is greener where ever you water it.” It is so true ❤
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It is, isn’t it Maja. Thank you so much for reading, my dear sweet friend. xo
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Keep insipring us ❤
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I’ll try! ❤️
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