When I saw this weeks Daily Post Photo Challenge on Admiration I knew straight away who I would write about – my mum. My regular readers will know her story through The Longest Goodbye but for those who don’t know, my mum went into hospital a year ago for brain surgery and basically was never the same again. She’s now cared for in a facility as she can no longer talk, walk or feed herself. Her quality of life has long gone.
Here I want to remember and dedicate this post to the woman she was before the operation. With Mothers Day being celebrated in Australia on Sunday it is my gift to her. And perhaps a bit of therapy for me. So here I’m sharing some of my beautiful mum.
Her name is Rina. Short for Pierina.
Mum was born in Italy in 1928 and immigrated to Australia to marry my father when she was in her early 20s. She couldn’t speak a word of English when she came here. It was the beginning of a new life in a new land. I can’t imagine the courage that would have taken.
R – real and authentic, that was my mum. What you saw was what you got. A kind, soft natured and generous woman who opened her home and her heart to everyone she met. She was sensitive, not overly confident but held high morals and ingrained in us a sense of right and wrong. Of always trying to do the right thing and treating others with respect.
I – independent and strong. After my dad died, 17 years ago, she grieved him, for a long time. He was the only man she loved. Yet she got on with her life. She had good friends and neighbors. She threw herself into life, charity work and volunteered her time. She joined a seniors gym to keep fit, she loved walking and she became part of the U3A group.
N – Nurturing and loving, to all she met, with a special place in her heart for her Grand kids. She cooked the best lasagne under the sun. She was a wonderful cook and loved making desserts. She gave the best hugs and was always there when I needed her. I grew up with affection and a sense of belonging that has made me the woman I am today.
A – A role model to me. Someone I will always admire, long after she leaves our world. Yet she is still with me, and in her fragile state still teaching me. To be brave, strong and accepting. She is, and always will be, the most amazing woman in my life. I love you Mum.
Thank you to Deb, a talented blogger friend, who inspired me to write this post after I read her own account of her mother-in-law. Go visit her, she’s an amazing writer.
As we go about our lives this week I wish you all love, peace of mind and happiness. May you cherish every moment of every single day with the people in life that you love and admire the most.
Blessings to you all as you continue the journey.